I realized my earlier response did not answer the basis for the question. Philosophically, why are PMs important on forums?
Let’s say you’re being a jerk. What feels better:
- Me telling you, and everyone in the topic, that you’re being a jerk?
- Me sending you a private message informing you that I think you’re being a jerk?
There is a strong element of shame in the first option. And in systems of opinion, versus systems of fact and science, who are we to even tell you anything? Shame can lead people down dark paths, like:
Well, the whole world obviously thinks I’m a jerk so I guess I better act like one then. Screw you guys!
Instead of
Hey, normally I’m a rational guy who gets along well with others. I guess you’re right, this one time I kinda went over the line. Let me go back and edit my post a bit.
Does that make sense?
p.s. I’m sorry you’re a jerk