hrm. I guess I read it as “recommended” for minimum.
The install is simply a default install with no plugins and I see the config using the minimum resources(discourse install automatically) for the 1gb ram. There is a frontend reverse proxy but that is taking little memory for a while before my issues came up.
If anyone else is experiencing heavy load on their 1gb vps within the last month or two with little to no use; and have a clue please update to me. Thanks.