I was trying to work out how to best describe the issue our community has been facing for while now, thankfully @ljpp has explained our biggest community complaint perfectly here:
This is exactly what our members (and I) are complaining about 
Same. Our club members, our TL3, our TL4 and all of our staff are all being driven mad by this behaviour.
It most definitely did.
The complaint from our community, and our own team (and myself!) is that if you receive 5x DMs overnight, you click to read the first one, you reply or action whatever needed actioning and then whoosh! The green envelope is gone and you’re completely unaware of any unread DMs (and 101 other notifications).
Is there a setting to revert this behaviour? So a flair remains visible all the time you have unread “things”? Or maybe a theme component or similar to override this? 