Everything has its learning curve and there is nothing to apologize. Discourse is super easy and logical (after basics, of course) when compared to Mastodon server — I just couldn’t understand how to upgrade it, and if I’ve nagged documentation of Discourse it is superb, when docs of Mastodon are more or less just absolut minimum and everyhing is more messages between devs. So with Mastodon isn’t enough learning Mastodon, but one must understand how git works. Well, we have another mystical creature Docker, but (almost) every admin can handle Discourse with zero understanding of Docker.
Yet handling of plugins could be more… human 
Back to topic. Sometimes there is need to answer and there is no need to bump. When there is extra piece of needed data and there is a fear that those who are already red OP doens’t understand that starter is edited. So perhaps there could be certain time limit before no-bump kicks in?
Or is this just another policy question and makes simple thing too difficult?