Thanks for your attempts at helping I finally got support from the Bitnami folks.
Pls for goodness sake can we go back to UI’s that don’t require degrees to operate and instructions that are accurate? Pero why do I need to see the backend Anyways?!
OK time for a bagel.
I miss Steve jobs 
If anyone is in the same predicament here’s a link to my resolution and how to access discourse.conf file.
https://community.bitnami.com/t/discourse-403-error/37236/4