Messages and chat distinction confusion

I keep getting lost/confused when I want to access what my brain labels as a « discussion » with some other member. Some of these discussions take place by chat, others by personal message. I go to chat, can’t find it, then realise it must have been a personal message, where are those already, oh yeah I need to go to my avatar up right to find them…

Honestly it’s confusing. The first characteristic of these interactions are that they were with one person (or a small group) in a closed space. The medium (chat or messages) is not that salient for me: sure, I completely understand the difference between them, but in practice as I’m used to going to chat for a personal/private interaction I keep « not finding » my messages. The difference between chat and messages is largely speed of interaction (which drives — or is driven by, depending on how you look at things — length of utterance), but sometimes people don’t reply to chat right away, or reply to a personal message right away.

Don’t get me wrong, I like having both. But the way they are separated, with personal messages trying to be some kind of limited audience topic (which I get that they are, technically) doesn’t feel smooth at all.

I’m not sure I have a solution, but this bugs me each time.

(FWIW who remembers when Facebook had both messages and chat — messages being the older form of direct communication? They then did away with the internal mail style messages to keep only instant messaging. Which is a pain, when people write « long emails » in IM. But I’m sure that somewhere in that decision was the issue lurking here: chat and messages have a lot of overlap and it’s complicated to make them coexist in one space in a way that allows users to be drawn to the right one when they need it. IM and email are still around and both used, which for me justifies having both modes of communication. But on the same platform, it’s tricky.)

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What theme are you using? I access everything easily from the sidebar. (I realise that doesn’t solve your wider cognitive dissonance.)

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Don’t have anything to add, just that there are discussions about the chat/posts distinctions:

And valuable quotes from the :discourse:team:

In 2022,

In 2024,

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Yeah, this remains a thorny issue, eh? I’m forever seeing users confused about which to use, and not being able to find stuff. They are great tools, and as @HAWK says they each serve very different purposes.

I suspect that ‘Messages’ came into existence as an easy-to-bolt-on pseudo message system. Now that we have proper messages, perhaps it is time to move on?

Moving to pragmatics, I believe that the inherent negatives of this silo’ing so clearly articulated above by @stephtara could be mitigated significantly by one of these two approaches:

Search expanded to cover Topics, Messages, and Chat by default

We currently can cover Topics and Messages by appending in:all to search (but this can’t be made the default). And we can currently search Chat, but only within the Chat silo.

To my simple mind, this then seems doable - the functionality already exists (especially for Topics/Messages).

Changing ‘Messages’ to ‘Private Topics’

Messages are essentially Private Topics already, with only a few minor differences - and a different topic list UI (two actually if you include Group Messages via /group pages).

If we went the ‘whole hog’ and stopped branding them as Messages, and made Chat (which we already call ‘DM’s’) the actual messages, then we’d really be somewhere.

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FWIW I’ve seen users on Discord also express something similar, but different - they forget about DMs as a facility, or they somehow don’t check them (even though there’s an annunciator.)

For me, as a keeper of things and as a site admin, as a retentive person if you will, the big notable difference is the retention: chat, by default, is ephemeral and lasts only 90 days. For myself, and for my forum, I have disabled chat and don’t use it.

Anyone starting a new forum, or joining a new forum, might want to consider whether chat is part of their mental model at all.

I don’t know all that much about the Facebook user experience, but I think I can say that Messenger got spun out into its own app, and people use it and think of it as a separate space. That’s the opposite direction of the idea of merging DMs and Chat into a single space.

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Horizon, here on Meta. You’re right, it’s in the sidebar too! I think I’ve “blinded out” the sidebar (except for categories) because on my site I’ve hidden it (for the moment) and moved it to the hamburger menu next to the avatar in an attempt to make the interface less busy for my members (too many different places to go and find stuff).

Maybe I need to go about things differently and think in terms of “all sidebar”. Will sit with that for a bit!

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Thanks for collecting them here!

I think this might be at odds with the general population’s assumption, in a world where we all now have many years of whatsapp chats that we can dive into for xyz reason. I think Messages and Chat map rather naturally to e-mail and instant messaging, with the twist that you can invite somebody into a Messages conversation and they automatically have access to the whole history, unlike with e-mail where they only have it if it’s copied on the bottom of the last e-mail sent, and that chat history gets lost.

That’s true, more and more. But history is retained. And Facebook has made attempts to reintegrate some form of chat into groups, channel-style. In my community, we rely very heavily on group discussions on Messenger, for moderation or real-time discussions about how to manage this or that situation in the group. We then (therefore) also rely very heavily on the chat history to recall what was decided about a case, or if a troublesome user already created trouble in the past. I’m aware this is moot with all the wonderful moderation tools Discourse gives us (user notes and stuff). But I’m definitely dealing with a population that is used to instant messaging, and I’m a bit worried about turning it off (very tempted though).

All that would be missing is the ability to display full-page like current messages, and formatting. Could we have the best of both worlds?

I don’t really use WhatsApp as anything other than a chat app, which is ephemeral. I may not understand a nuance here.

I agree and I still feel that instant messaging is ephemeral and used to have quick discussions with people. Where are we disagreeing?

It might be regarding the fact that synchronous and highly interactive communication does not necessarily imply that one won’t want to refer to it later.

Not directly in response to what you say here, but continuing my thoughts on this topic:

  • Chat has the least friction, so that is where people tend to turn to by default. For me, it’s the same mechanics as what caused a lot of conversations to migrate from blogs and their comments to the socials (I unpack this in this post of mine, under “A way to look at interaction”)
  • My experience on Facebook is that people easily get “stuck” in chat (because it’s ongoing, interactive, immediate) and that draws them away from the slower interaction in the group/community
  • Chat is super useful to deal with a crisis or to have a real-time, live exchange on a topic where being able to adjust to feedback instantly is helpful (“let’s drop the e-mail thread and pick up the phone for this”)
  • Messages are wonderful because they are a way to write something more longform (internal e-mail) to somebody, that they will read and respond to when available. In the absence of such a functionality, people “hijack” chat for that, and send “letters” through a communication channel that is made primarily for live, interactive communication (though of course it has flexibility and can also be used asynchronously). This is what happens on Facebook, or Whatsapp: every now and again you receive a message pages long, that you can’t read now, even less respond to now, but the fact it happens in the “instant messaging/chat” channel creates pressure.
  • Both channels (Messages and Chat) have their uses, stemming from what makes them similar (in the case I was bringing up: I’m having “a conversation with this person” – or people) and what makes them different.
  • Guiding people to one or the other is an interface issue as I see things, and not an education one.
  • I don’t see the duration of history retention as a direct consequence of the differences in use cases between the two: it could be used as a tool to try and “prevent” people from overusing chat for important exchanges that shouldn’t be lost, but for me that is relying on education to solve the issue of “getting people to use the right channel for the right things”
  • How do the socials design their interface to control the length of utterances/degree of interactivity on their platforms? The box for writing something on Facebook is small, so people think small. You can’t use formatting. Twitter limited length. On the other side, we have (had? who is still on?) chat spaces like IRC: just a line to write on, and a very visible collective conversation that has a certain speed. Blogging? A new post on WordPress gives me a nearly full-page space to write, with a title!

For me, this is where affordance comes in. Make people “not want” to type in paragraphs in chat, and “want” to move to chat if they’re messaging back-and-forth synchronously. (etc.)

So, aside from thinking things and pointing out what doesn’t “feel” right to me, do I have concrete suggestions? I’m honestly not sure at this stage. Let me try thinking out loud. (I thank you all again for your patience with my sometimes verbose musings.)

My concrete problem as community manager is the following: I would like to keep both chat and messages, because I think I have use cases for both. I also don’t want my community members to get sucked up in chats (or private messages for that matter), because the nature of a support community, particularly where we are dealing with lives (even if they’re “just” cat lives), is that support given in public is more likely to be subject to checks and balances and less likely to go off the rails and have serious consequences. And because I know from experience that when members are chatting away in the background, it satisfies their need for action and connection that doesn’t benefit the larger community. (OK this is drifting out of UX I think, sorry about that.)

So, I’d like to be able to have specific control about who has private message and chat privileges. I don’t want to let normal members chat with each other, but I want staff or certain groups to be able to initiate chat with members if needed. I’d like channels to be accessible on certain conditions.

Just a note: I know Discourse already does a large part of what I’m talking about in this post – I’m just trying to think using my needs as a starting point.

Same with personal messages. But maybe not the same settings. I might want people to be able to exchange personal messages but not chat. Or vice-versa.

Which brings us back to the initial question: say I have access to chat and personal messages, where do I find them and what is going to invite me to use one rather than another? For now, user cards clearly invite me to message. But right next to my avatar is a little chat bubble. So we have two different “entry points” for 1-1 communication (if we stick with that scenario). Either I “see” somebody I want to connect with directly, and I’ll send them a message. Or I think of something to say to someone, and I’m more likely to click on the chat bubble to write to them. Plus, the chat bubble overlays the chat window to what I’m currently doing instead of replacing it.

Whereas if I were to go to “My Messages” in the sidebar, I actually end up in a space that seems to be all about me: my activity, my notifications, my profile. Messages almost seem like an afterthought.

I have the feeling the way things are set up now sends some kind of “mixed message” (no pun intended) regarding how to talk to people.

So, how about grouping messages and chats in some way? Not merging, because as mentioned more than once in this conversation, they have different uses, but they also are cousins (hence my confusion when looking for something that I recall being in one or the other). I’m not sure what label would cover “Messages and Chats” well, but for me it would make sense, if I have had chats with “Rose” as well as message exchanges with her, to have a way to access them easily (metaphorically) side-by-side. I see this as a kind of “My Communication Hub” where I would see who I’ve had personal communications with (individuals or groups) and be able to access them without having to first know if it was through chat or Messages. Because my brain (and I don’t think it’s unique to me) is probably going to know who it was with before knowing if it was chat or messages. Maybe a first step in that direction would be to make the existence of a chat with somebody visible in the message view, and vice-versa.

This would definitely be helpful.

This idea I’m very ambivalent about. I feel the whole concept of “private topics” not intuitive at all. Just like, as mentioned elsewhere, the fact that these “private messages” are not private at all because either party can unilaterally expand the audience without consent of the other party, including for past exchanges.

I really like the way these messages/private topics work, however. But when it comes to labelling, they feel more like “internal e-mail” or the “direct messages” one might have encountered on message boards over the last decades.

But on second thought: sure, why not. We’d have chat (instant messaging) on one side, and private topics (but then make them properly private… I recall a discussion about “personal” instead of “private” for to my ears at least, it’s same-same – you get a letter in the post marked “personal”, that clearly implies it’s not for others). And maybe that could be grouped under Messaging.

And maybe there would be a way to “jump” from one to another (is that a “bad good idea?”, to start in chat and say “make this a topic”, or be in a topic and say “make a chat from this”? Probably a step too far, though I’m seeing this need to drift from one to the other in quite a few posts in this topic, for example:

It could be an invitation: if a topic is morphing into a near-synchronous exchange of short messages, the system could “invite to chat”, or if somebody is typing a three-page letter into the chat input field, invite to “make this a topic instead? you’ll be able to format!”?

Trying to summarize:

  • as I see it both “direct messages/topics” and chat deserve to exist
  • it would make sense to bring them closer “geographically”, for example under a “messages” or “direct communication” heading, which de-silos a bit and presents them more as what they are, two flavours of non-public communication
  • expanding search to chat would be great (isn’t that already possible?)
  • granular access rights for both chats and messages
  • solution to the “private/personal topics that aren’t that personal”?
  • how do we invite people to communicate? (what’s on the user card, what’s highly visible on the interface)

I’m sure a lot of this has been discussed and thought through before and that there are probably solutions to some of my issues that I don’t know of.

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