メール返信の設定を試行中:ActionController::RoutingError([POST] "/admin/email/handle_mail" に一致するルートがありません)

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to push an email to Discourse, you need to pass the raw email content as the “email” parameter when POSTing to “/admin/email/handle_mail

Easiest way to get reply by email working is to use the mail-receiver container template, rather than trying to work with all sorts of varying APIs from the different providers.