Upgrade to 3.3 is failing for me

My server has 4GB of RAM, and 4GB of Swap. The rebuild just stops at the database system is ready to accept connections and does not complete and the forum remains down. I can restore it to the Droplet backup (again) which will take me back to a working 3.2 forum, but it’d be better to resolve this.

# free
              total        used        free      shared  buff/cache   available
Mem:           3919         286        1443          20        2189        3360
Swap:          4095           2        4093
Total:         8015         288        5537