Es gibt nicht mehr die Möglichkeit, jemanden direkt per PM anzuschreiben, wenn man auf ein Thema antwortet. Kann ich das wieder aktivieren?

All these use cases are covered by the Message button in users cards.

If you wanted to send a PM to a user, with a quote to something they said in a public topic:

In the post that contains the text you want to quote, click on the user’s username, and then click on the Message button:

The composer for the PM will open in the public topic, so you can highlight the text to quote as you would normally:

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