I’m considering using Discourse for my group and I was wondering if I can view private messages between users. Can I view deleted private messages between users?
Reason. It’s a discussion forum for a kids sports team and we want to make sure nothing untoward is happening between kids and adults.
Yes, you can see users private messages.
When you have discourse you can look in logs 
Ethics: admin should access private messages in strict read-only mode
This is precisely the reason why we have always argued that admins need this privilege and it is in fact a safety feature.
In that case I would recommend you keep all conversation in the open and disable private messages entirely.
Agreed. I manage a site for kids, and believe me, you don’t need any communication between the kids, either. Even without the adults being involved, you don’t need them communicating privately.
Make sure that COPPA regulations are followed as well, if you have kids under 13. If you do, you MUST have parental permission, as Discourse is not COPPA compliant.
That one will come down to geography. COPPA is only a consideration within the United States. Being a sports team, and presumably situated pretty close to one another, they’re only going to need to worry about the regulations for a single country/region.
Adding a checkbox to sign up for parental consent isn’t a tremendous issue.
A lot of good discussion here. I’ll have to look up COPPA and how to implement this parental consent checkbox…
I think I saw a feature where I can be notified if certain ‘words’ appear in the logs. I wonder if this feature would be useful for monitoring private messages for inappropriate words/topics.
Yes, in this case you would go here @snow
Then choose. Flag and require approval will notify you
If you need anyother help just ask 
Alternatively you could follow the approach of a community I helped build last year. Set your community to invite-only and invite only parents. Give them TL2 so that they in turn will manage the invitation of their own children.
我确信它就在眼前 
，但我用管理员账号在日志里找不到私信……
你需要了解什么？你作为管理员与之互动过的任何私信都会显示在你自己的已发送项目中。
抱歉，表达不够清楚。我的意思是，作为管理员，我在哪里可以看到用户之间发送的私人消息？
前往用户的常规个人资料页面，然后点击“消息”。实际上，打开任何话题都会生成一条工作人员操作审计日志，记录您打开了私信。
