@codinghorror Indeed, it would have been. And I should have said that in my opinion it was patronising, rather than stating it as fact.
In truth I was tearing my hair out and - for my state of mind - I tried to phrase it politely. However, that doesn’t negate the fact that it may have come accross more bitchy than I’d normally express myself. I apologise.
Discourse is very powerful and I was getting totally overwhelmed with finding where to switch it all off.
My audience is a small group who are well mannered and I’ve been running the forum on a different platform with them for a good while. All the initial trust-level/welcome mails/hints and whatever don’t seem to have a central switch. It would be great to be able to back to the bare bones and then build only those messages and mails and levels and categories that are necessary for the purpose of the forum.
Currently it seems to be a matter of test-using Discourse and then accidentally encountering all these features and then trying to find where to switch them off.
I’ve spent many more hours than anticipated getting things to work well for my members (and still not there, yet) and my temper has admittedly suffered quite a bit.
I appreciate the feedback on my wording. I’ll be more courteous in the future.