Intergrading discoures in to a application

I am trying to build an application that has an ecosystem of different app’s, and one of them is a discussion gruppe, one of the requirements to the discussion gruppe, is that before you can become a new member everyone else in the group needs to accept the new memer before he/her can be a member of the group. is there a way that i can somehow use discoures’s as a component in app silt mangers permissions and user myself

Perhaps you just want your site to be the SSO server for your Discourse instance. See Official Single-Sign-On for Discourse (sso).